This is from the perspectives of four trans-identified people who offer up their own experiences as personal advice.)Rudy is 25, Middle Eastern and identifies as a straight male.
We broke up for many reasons one was she was very controlling and had problems with my genderqueer “stuff” i.e my deodorant or the fact that I wear boxers and men’s clothes.We asked some trans men who have been through the process of transitioning while in a relationship for the best kind of support they would or could have been offered, and other helpful things to consider in a similar situation.(Note: Things are different for every person, situation and relationship.On the other hand I get why most straight woman would not want to date me.Leo: Coming out to my partner wasn’t difficult at all.But other times, you can try your best to be a ready and able partner in a time of transition.Specifically, we’re talking about your partner transitioning from female to male.Honestly, if I could go back and repeat that moment, I wouldn’t change a thing. Simon: I began the transition process about six weeks before I told my girlfriend at the time. First, I wanted to make sure that starting hormones felt “right” to me before I told a lot of people, particularly those with a much stronger vested interest in my gender/identity, like my girlfriend and my family.I had been debating about starting hormones for so long that I wanted to make it easy on myself to stop them if I didn’t like what happened, or if taking them didn’t make me feel any better.We broke up for a reason that had nothing to do with being trans*.I lived in a gray area of genderqueer for four years too scared to transition mostly out of fear of the unknown.