Perhaps a husband cheated, or a long-term boyfriend abandoned them, or a man seen as having potential dropped them soon after sex. But if they believe it is their right to control the dating process, they should seek counsel.
It will do them no good to continue to righteously use the term player to cover up anger and pain.
But I’ve found that the term player is also used far too often by controlling women who want to “control” the dating process.
For example, a male client complained that he’s been called a player on a number of occasions—an accusation that angers and frustrates him. “Sure, on occasion I’ve slept with a couple of women with whom I chose not to commit to. I’m looking for the right person and it’s going to take time.
You might want to say something like, "Texting can be so distracting — I'd really prefer if you e-mailed me or called me to make plans." Or else say, "Look, considering I don't know you very well, I'd prefer to make plans in advance.
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Yesterday, I blogged about the advice my male friends have for interpreting a guy's mixed signals. Now, I think it's obvious when someone texts you at midnight, asking what you're up to, that he's just looking for sex.
Today, as a follow-up, I want to talk today about another writer-lady's very smart advice on how to determine whether or not a guy is a player. But players will also send more innocent-seeming texts, saying stuff like, "Hey — spontaneous invite — wanna grab dinner tonight? I'm free tonight but will probably have to work late through the weekend. " While this kind of informality might come off as charming or enthusiastic, I think you should never agree to a last-minute plan unless you've already been on multiple dates with a guy — or unless you feel confident that he is pretty into you. It will make you uncomfortable or it will seem like a deviation from his typical behavior or both.
If the emotional pressure on you gets too much, it’s time to call it a day and keep your sanity intact.
Ultimately, the journey to find a long-term relationship can have highs and lows, but you have to be in the dating game to get the desired outcome.