He may try to even the score by fighting about custody of the children or how to split the marital estate.
If you have children, then you also need to realize that it's in your best interest to try to keep a cordial relationship with your husband.
Before you start sending emails, I have to say that very often it’s the wife who has already started dating before the divorce is final. Remember those pesky vows you took when you got married? Well, until your divorce is made final by a family court, the judge will expect you to behave like you meant what you promised.
The girls tend to be worse about flaunting their new partner in front of their spouse. The ones where you promised to be bound to this person, to respect and take care of them through sickness, health, richer, poorer, until death or the end of time? Remember that the judge is constantly evaluating the credibility of each party, the merits of their arguments, and the fitness of each parent to raise the children.
She may be required to testify in the divorce trial. Use this as motivation to come to an agreement so your divorce can be resolved quicker.
Then, you’ll have a lot more freedom to see who you want.If you're thinking about dating before your divorce is final – DON'T!You may think that you're free to start a new relationship once the decision is made to separate or divorce, but it is wise to hold off on the dating scene until after your divorce is finalized for a number of strategic legal and emotional reasons. When you start seeing someone else, it is like rubbing salt into your husband's wounds.It seems that just about every time I’m in court watching the judge sort through the details of a divorce, one of the parties (often the husband) walks out surprised that the judge ruled in favor of the wife because the husband is already dating. The divorce is so close you can taste it, why not go ahead get out there, have some fun, and re-enter the dating scene?Sometimes it’s worse, and the husband has already moved his girlfriend into the marital home. Perhaps your spouse has even given his permission for you to date.As far as the courts are concerned, you are still legally married until the divorce is finalized.In states that recognize fault in a divorce case, dating during your divorce can be viewed as adultery.Once you’ve fallen in the eyes of the judge, it will be very difficult to get back up.The judge will pay attention to your ability to keep your promises, be honest with your spouse, follow agreements you’ve made with your spouse, and follow orders of the court.Everything you do and say in court, and out of court, will affect how the judge chooses to use his discretion, and much of divorce law allows the judge a lot of room to use his judgment when dividing the assets or setting alimony.Depending on the facts of your divorce, your credibility may be as thin as a tightrope, and a revelation that you’ve been dating may be enough to knock you off.