Some women go instead to the opposite extreme, getting plastic surgery or increasing their make up until they over-compensate.
Neither of these is the appropriate or confident response to the onset of aging (in the same way that wearing a toupee is a poor response to the onset of male baldness, for example).
Some may not have ever dated another woman, because they married the first woman they ever met.
A lot of older widowers have grown children; in fact, many may even be grandfathers. Widowers often need a woman’s touch around the house.
A widower can be still married in his mind, often feeling guilty, as if he is cheating on his beloved, deceased wife. Widowers can have wonderful qualities, if you are able to wait it out.
As the new woman, you want a man who will see you for yourself, as an equal partner, not as a “mistress” he feels guilty about. It takes some time for a widower to deal with the loss of his wife and be able to accept another. But if you are expecting something to develop faster, and if you have expectations of coupling with gusto, your plans may end up in sadness. A woman must carefully evaluate the qualities of a widower and then talk to him openly about her needs.
He has probably been taken care of, coddled, and somewhat controlled.
He feels he had the greatest marriage of the century.
It is reminiscent of a kid who is trying to like broccoli.
If this advice sounds negative, it is only meant to provide women with a jolt of realism, and to provide widowers with an eye-opener.