But there is an entire additional level of stress when, for some reason, you discover d put strain on your home life.
When you discover your parents strongly disapprove of your bf/gf, your first inclination will be to pull away from them and continue your dating relationship behind their back. Never secretly date someone your parents don’t want you to date.
Although far from perfect, they have years of experience and wisdom that you don’t have yet.
This might enable them to see the character faults in your bf/gf a whole lot easier than you, especially if you’re blinded by the deep emotions you feel for your bf/gf.
The more people I talked to, nobody wanted us together. Chances are, your parents have more wisdom than you do and it’s a good idea to take their advice. It only shows them you are too immature to be in the relationship they are so worried about.
The best thing you can do is to sit down with your parents and calmly, with great respect, ask what it is they don’t like about your bf/gf and what you can do to lessen their fears and objections. They will appreciate your desire to learn from their wisdom and respect their point of view.It is worth pushing pause on your anger and emotions and considering whether your parents may be right.They have the advantage of perspective…they realize over 90% of high school dating ends up not working out.As you identify the problems and come up with the plans to fix them, you will be well on your way to a more healthy and positive relationships between you, your bf/gf, and your parents.Don’t forget, while boyfriends and girlfriends come and go, parents are forever.I told him that our friendship was deep enough that if he promised to stay clean and strived to become the husband and father he should be, I would forgive him. Our 4-year-old grandson adores him, and he has rebuilt his relationship with the kids.I don't believe anyone at 19 or 20 truly understands marriage, the commitment and the journey.Dawson Mc Allister (born in New Kensington, Pennsylvania) is an American speaker, radio host, and author.He is the founder of Dawson Mc Allister Association and The Hope Line and host of the national radio program Dawson Mc Allister Live, which is aired on Sunday nights.Dawson has been speaking to and in support of teenagers and young adults for over 40 years. The purpose of the blogs are to provide help through the content, stories, and struggles of others.If you are looking for immediate help please click on an option above.