The Bible uses the phrase “the bloom of youth” to describe the period of life when sexual feelings and romantic emotions first become strong.
When I feel that my personality has been stable for a couple of years, then I’ll think about dating.” There’s another reason why waiting is wise.
But you can—you must—rise above that kind of thinking! So before you’re ready to focus on one particular person, you need to take time to study a very important “subject”—how to build friendships.
(Romans 12:2) After all, the Bible urges you to “flee from sexual immorality.” (1 Corinthians , Being pressured to date before you’re ready would be like being forced to take a final exam for a course that you’ve barely started. You need time to study your subject so that you can become familiar with the kind of problems you’ll face in the test. Later, when you meet the right person, you’ll be in a better position to build a solid relationship.
“The group idea is a really good idea,” she says, “because you get to associate with people who have different personalities.” In contrast, if you focus on one person too soon, you set yourself up for heartache. Use this period of your life to learn how to cultivate and maintain friendships.
Later, if you choose to date, you’ll have a better idea of who you are and what you need in a lifelong partner.