We should have waited until we had gotten more serious and made sure we were on the same page with our intentions. Side note: My parents used to tell me physical relationships were like playing with fire.
I was like “Blah blah blah, they’re so old school.” Now I realize it’s true!
It seemed like I was stuck in that cycle—until I met my husband, James. It was the beginning of the lifelong adventure of sex that we get to share with just each other And I am so thankful for that. I dated one truly wonderful guy—but he didn’t share my standards.
We weren’t perfect and didn’t have it all figured out, but I can tell you this: Our wedding night was the first time we saw each other naked, the first time we touched each other in…well, you know…and the first time we slept in the same bed. I don’t have all the answers, but I did learn seven things that really helped me and my husband set physical boundaries while dating. He said, “That’s fine; if you don’t want to do this and such, then we won’t”—and he meant it.
And then keep talking about it—keep the conversation going throughout your whole relationship. ” But then we realized—hey, we’re asking the wrong question!
Asking, “How far can I go before I get into trouble?That’s a question we kept asking over and over the whole time we were dating. We asked them “What did you do physically while you were dating? ” These married couples were generous with their honesty.We spoke with one couple who hadn’t even kissed before their wedding day—and yes, they have a great sex life. )We spoke with one couple who had sex while dating, and they said that even though they married each other, the fact that they had sex while dating really hurt their marriage.I was still a virgin technically, but I’d done almost everything a person can do before actually having sex.Through my next two relationships, I struggled through the same guilt, the same questions: How far was too far?So today I want to share them with you in the hope that they can help you as well. I thought that was good enough, but when my willpower started slipping and I gradually decided I wanted to go farther, he was okay with that—as long as I was okay with that (which, eventually, I was). He wanted us to live rightly before God just as much (if not more) than I wanted to.We could encourage each other and stand strong together. When you’re in the moment—when you’re watching a movie in a dark room and everyone else has gone to bed—is the time to talk about your boundaries.Between singleness and marriage lies the journey of dating. Set and maintain healthy boundaries--boundaries that will help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control. If many of your dating experiences have been difficult, Boundaries in Dating could revolutionize the way you handle relationships. We make sure our products are packed and shipped with the upmost care. We never rent or share your personal information, and we do everything we can to protect your identity and privacy! Set Up a Detention Hall This site is safe and secure. Protection of your personal data is your right and our responsibility.